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Have a Go Spaghettio! Teaching children about Brain Bully Thinking and w...



This Have a Go Spaghettio! video is a review,

reminder that irrational BB thinking is unhelpful

thinking and this can be taught explicitly in the

teaching and learning context. Albert Ellis, creator

of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy, says the

future of psychotherapy is in the school system.

With the Have a Go approach, it has arrived in early

childhood learning.

Irrational thinking is that which stops us getting the

results we desire or prefer. It dismisses or is

ignorant of the reality that sometimes we may not

get what we strongly desire to have; people to like

us, to do well at tasks, reach our goals. This needn’t

be catastrophic unless we believe it to be. The BB

belief we are not OK if others think otherwise is an

irrational perspective on the worth we apportion to

our ‘self,’ i.e., we are worthwhile because we exist

not because someone else says we are!

Some children will be constructing BB beliefs that

undermine their confidence and sense of agency

impacting their psychological resilience against

harmful and intrusive irrational thoughts.

The six Success Helper habits of thinking are

introduced to the children via the Have a Go

Spaghettio! approach to building psychological

resilience and wellbeing. REBT’s ABC Theory of

Emotional Disturbance is its foundation theory,

which helps children understand that their belief

constructions can be helpful or unhelpful.

BB believing is Success Stopper thinking which is

irrational and unhelpful thinking causing BB

feelings and actions. Using the Have a Go

Spaghettio! approach will empower our children to

act in confidence, because they will learn to accept

themselves unconditionally which is ‘I’m

worthwhile crocodile’ thinking.


Have a Go Spaghettio!  Give it a Try Banana Pie!

Dr. Albert Ellis



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