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Mr. Chin Doesn't Give In! (as much as he used to!)



Let me introduce you to Mr. Chin. He is married to Mrs. Chin.

They live in a lovely cottage in a little village called ChiniChinChin. They are the Chins from ChiniChinChin!

But they have a problem.

When jobs get tricky, Mr. Chin gives in!         

Mr. Chin would start jobs around the cottage, and he would get tired and not finish them.  

He would say ‘I give up’ and he would have a rest and fall asleep in his favourite chair.

Snooze, snooze, snore, and snooze!

He dug half a hole in the garden and built half a shed.

He mowed half the lawn.

He washed half the dog.

And shaved half of his beard! He did look funny!

Mrs. Chin said, ‘Have you finished your jobs Mr. Chin?’

But Mr. Chin was fast asleep.

Guess where he was?

Yes, he was sleeping in his favourite chair.

He was snooze, snooze, snoozing in his favourite chair, again!!

Snooze, snooze, snore, and snooze!

Mr. Chin went to the doctor and said, ‘I give in when I have tough jobs to do, and everything is unfinished.

I just sit in my favourite chair and have a loooooong snooze!’

The doctor said, ‘mmmmm, I think you have give in disease, Mr. Chin.’

‘Oh, dear me! What’s that?’ Mr. Chin asked.

The doctor said, ‘when the job gets tricky you think ‘this is too hard,’ and you give up!

This stops you from being successful.

Snoozing is easy but working is tough.

This is Success Stopper thinking!’

 

'What will I do doctor?

I’m not being successful, and my jobs are not finished, and Mrs. Chin feels sad too sometimes.'

He said:

 

If you want to feel much better

And get all your jobs done.

This is what you need to do.

And you can have some fun! 

When you want to stop

And you are about to give in

Instead of snoozing in your chair

Say ‘DON’T GIVE IN MR. CHIN!’

Mr. Chin went home and told Mrs. Chin what the doctor had said, and Mrs. Chin listened carefully.

She said, ‘you can try, and you will be successful.’

‘Yes, I can, and thank you for helping me,’ said Mr. Chin.

Mr. Chin gave Mrs. Chin a big hug.

The next day when Mr. Chin had mowed only half of the lawn, he said to himself, ‘this is too hard. I think I’ll give up and have a snooze in my favourite chair.’

Then he remembered what the doctor told him, and he said,

‘DON’T GIVE IN MR CHIN!’

And guess what?


Mr. Chin finished mowing the lawn and he felt very good. Mrs. Chin felt happy too.

Now, when you drive past the Chins from ChiniChinChin you will notice that everything is finished, and their lovely cottage looks even lovelier!


Mr. Chin still snoozes in his favourite chair.

But h only snoozes when he finishes his chores.

Snooze, snooze, snore, and snooze!


Well-done Mr. Chin. You didn’t give in!’




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