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The Have a Go Spaghettio! Rational Emotive Behaviour Educator


The Have a Go Spaghettio! Rational Emotive Behaviour Educator works in the classrooms of schools. I consider all people working with students in our schools as educators but for me special kudos goes the classroom operators, the people at the chalk face, those on the front line.

The role of the classroom educator is a complex and challenging one; teacher, counsellor, mentor, role model and the list goes on. For those lucky enough to have a had positive connection with teachers on their journey they are fortunate indeed.

Behaviour management can suggest that students need to be managed or told how they should and shouldn’t behave and some children need close guidance in this regard but the end goal is to help them self-regulate and decide for themselves how they might behave according to the thinking rules they are formulating or have formulated.

The six Have a Go colour coded Success Helper/Brain Friend competencies that are outlined in this video on the Have a Go Spaghettio! chart, contain the classroom rules i.e., the rules are embodied in the Have a Go Spaghettio! chart.

Behavioural rules are underpinned by thinking or believing rules that drive the choices we make be they Success Helper/Brain Friend or Success Stopper/Brain Bully habits of thinking.

Rational Emotive Behaviour Have a Go Spaghettio! Educators do the following:

  • They invest time in learning about Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy and the ABC Theory of Emotional Disturbance
  • They appreciate how they underpin and are taught through the Have a Go Spaghettio! Success Helper approach to social, emotional, and behavioural wellbeing
  • They use the Have a Go language as a matter of course
  • They use the Emotional Thermometer and Catastrophe Scale
  • They teach and reinforce the ABC counselling paradigm in other ways e.g., the Franklin is a Bully story illustrated in the video

This would make a great start and the more you practice the better you’ll get and our children will become Success Helper/Brain Friend thinking people.


So Have a Go Spaghettio! And ‘Give it a Try Banana Pie!


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