Have a Go Spaghettio! and The Yellow Success Helper

The Yellow Success Helper (YSH) represents behaviours related to positive relationships and interactions. They are associated with what REBT calls unconditional other acceptance (UOA) or what Carl Rogers calls unconditional positive regard (UPR). These philosophical perspectives see others as fallible human beings, like ourselves, and making judgements based on a particular quality or characteristic abstracted from the many are inaccurate assumptions.

YSH thinking makes YSH choices and emotions. This is the message conveyed to our early childhood learners, that they are constructivists, building their own conceptions about how things work. Have a Go Spaghettio! thinking is Brain Friend, Success Helper or rational thinking. If they learn that thinking, feeling and behaviour are connected they can learn to regulate how they feel and behave successfully.

The Red ‘I’m worthwhile crocodile’ thinking Success Helper is unconditional self-acceptance believing. Red and Yellow SH thinking relates to respect for self and respect for others and together these colours make orange. The Orange SH on the Have a Go Spaghettio! chart represents harmony, respect for self and others.

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