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Have a go Spaghettio! Success Helper Goal Setting

Have a go Spaghettio! Success Helper Goal Setting

Personal goals give us some direction, something to aim at. In the Have a Go Spaghettio! classroom we can introduce the idea of personal goal setting.

There are 6 Success Helper capabilities or competencies that we can develop to help us to experience success, achieving what we set out to achieve. It is important to remind our young class members that positive feelings are linked to achievement, trying new things and making friends with others. A simple definition of success might be:

‘Success is trying to do stuff, doing my best and feeling good about things.’

Success Helper goal setting can be described and encouraged in reference to the Have a Go Spaghettio! Success Helper chart in our daily teaching. A day starter might include a reminder that Success Helper goals help us to get better at stuff. The teacher might set things rolling by declaring that their goal is to practice e.g., the Red Success Helper called ‘I’m worthwhile crocodile’ thinking because ‘sometimes I tell myself I’m not good enough so I will remind myself that I’m always OK.’

Then invite the children to set their own SH goal for the day.

Jonno might say, ‘I’m setting a Blue SH goal. I’m going to try harder with my reading. I’m going to think, I will stick with this.’

Roisin might declare, ‘I’m going to practice my Green SH. I’m going to make sure I’m in line before the bell rings after lunch!’

Mo might say, ‘I’m going to practice my Purple SH. I will take deep breaths when I begin to feel really upset. I’ll tell Brain Bully to get lost!’

At the end of the day, we can debrief and talk about how we did, share our experiences and think about how we can continue to work on our chosen Success Helper awareness at home and elsewhere.

Are you ready Ted? Ted’s my Teddy. Ted is ready!


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