Have a Go Spaghettio! Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy and General Semantics

Have a Go Spaghettio! teaches children that something about them,

'good' or 'bad' doesn't define them in a global sense. Yet, they/we

learn to abstract something, be it a competency or quality, from the

many that constitute the 'self' under construction, and decide it 'is' us,

we are it! Hence, children can start to think of themselves as

good/bad, cute, dumb, ugly etc. Emotional and behavioural upset

experienced by the young child, according to Rational Emotive

Behaviour Therapy theory, on which Have a Go Spaghettio! is based,

is linked to irrational, Brain Bully/Success Stopper thinking.

The belief we can be dumb/smart etc. is what General Semantics

calls a 'semantic disturbance,' where the persons upset is caused by

mis interpretations, mis perceptions.

Brain Friend thinking is taught via the Have a Go Spaghettio!

approach to social and emotional well-being which says the person

cannot 'be' a word ascribed them by themselves of by others. This is

'I'm worthwhile crocodile' thinking/believing or unconditional self-

acceptance as described by Dr Albert Ellis in his REBT theory.

Albert Ellis said the future of psychotherapy is in the school system

and Have a Go Spaghettio! does that. The future is now!

Alfred Korzybski's quote below inspires these sentiments and influenced the work of Dr Ellis.

#HaveaGoSpaghettio #Giveitatrybananapie #earlychildhood #Imworthwhilecrocodile #education #teaching #learning

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