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The Word is Not The Person - General Semantics, REBT, reality and Have a...

How we perceive the world, others and ourselves is our own

constructed version of the reality we experience. Reality then is our

version of how we perceive it to be. It’s a persistent illusion

according to Albert Einstein and Douglas Adams says everything in

the universe we perceive is specific to us. Dr Seuss says there is ‘no

one alive who is youer than you,’ we are unique it is said, but what

kind of ‘you’ are we constructing, what is our virtual take on the

reality we experience and are we constructing a healthy view of the

unique ‘self’ possessed by each of us.

Have a Go Spaghettio! ‘s goal is to help children understand that as

constructivists they are building an internal, virtual representation of

reality and it can be either a rational, Brain Friend, Success Helper

version of reality or otherwise.

This video explores the idea that we can't ‘be’ any word ascribed us 

by

others or ourselves, as General Semantics theory says if we do we

will experience emotional and behavioural upset as we may be

abstracting an undesirable characteristic and applying it to our

global selves, i.e., we do something bad/good, therefore we are

totally bad/good!

Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy acquaints us with idea of

unconditional self-acceptance, that we are not good or bad, just

worthwhile. In Have a Go Spaghettio! speak this is ‘I’m worthwhile

crocodile’ thinking. 

Have a Go Spaghettio! Helps young people cultivate habits of

thinking that are reasonable, evidence based, and helpful. It is

underpinned by General Semantics and Rational Emotive Behaviour

Therapy theories and can be applied easily in early childhood

teaching and learning contexts. Give it a try banana pie!

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